Human sexuality is an intricate, interwoven tapestry. Within that tapestry, questions arise that challenge our understanding and open doors to conversations that were once considered taboo. One such question revolves around erectile dysfunction (ED) and the pursuit of pleasure.
Can you still achieve an orgasm even if you can’t achieve an erection?
Erectile function is part of the physical aspect of sexual activity. That said, sexual well-being is a multi-faceted experience that involves emotions, intimacy and other sensory stimulation. Reaching orgasm is part of all of that.
Let’s take a closer look at the anatomy and psychology surrounding ED and orgasm.
What is erectile dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction is a common problem and can be described as either an inability to get an erection or an inability to maintain an erection long enough for sexual intercourse.
”It particularly affects men aged over 40, although it can be present at any age,” said Dave Nichols, M.B., Ch.B., a medical advisor for MyHealthChecked and a general practitioner in Stockport, England.
The causes of ED vary and can be physical or psychological in nature, or a combination of both, and usually have little to do with sexual desire.
Some common causes include:
- Cardiovascular disease
- Certain medications
- Diabetes
- Excess alcohol consumption
- Fatigue
- Hormonal imbalances
- Neurological conditions
- Physical injury to the penis, spinal cord, prostate, bladder or pelvis
- Stress, anxiety, or depression
Erectile dysfunction is a common condition. Roughly 50 percent of men over the age of 40 have some degree of ED, according to Jeremie Walker, M.D., a physician with telehealth provider Opt Health and at Atrium Health in Charlotte, North Carolina. In fact, the National Institutes of Health reports ED affects more than 30 million men in the United States
Many men will encounter erectile dysfunction at some juncture in their lives. It can undoubtedly be a source of frustration and insecurity, touching on self-esteem and relationships. Nevertheless, it remains crucial to recognize that ED does not automatically signify the end of sexual pleasure or intimacy.
Can a man with ED achieve orgasm?
The short answer to this question is yes.
”Men with erectile dysfunction can still achieve orgasm if they are stimulated enough, even with only a partial erection or no erection at all,” Nichols said.
You may or may not be aware, but there are different types of orgasms, explained Justin Houman, M.D., a reproductive urologist and men’s health specialist at Tower Urology in Los Angeles and the chief medical officer for MANUAL, a mental and physical health resource for men. Here are four types of orgasms he listed:
- Penile orgasm. This is the most common type of orgasm, characterized by rhythmic contractions of the pelvic muscles and ejaculation.
- Prostate orgasm. Stimulation of the prostate gland, often achieved through anal play, can lead to intense orgasms.
- Blended orgasm. This involves stimulating multiple erogenous zones simultaneously, such as the penis and prostate, for a heightened orgasmic experience.
- Non-ejaculatory orgasm. Some men can experience orgasm without ejaculating. This is more commonly practiced in certain forms of tantra and mindfulness techniques.
Broadly speaking, orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events that can co-occur during sexual climax or independently of one another.
”So you can have an orgasm, or intense pleasure, with or without an ejaculate,” Walker said. “Sometimes, the ejaculate is just absent because of retrograde flow, so nothing comes out. You can have a single orgasm or multiple orgasms.”
Also, it should be noted that orgasm and erections aren’t necessarily bound to each other.
”Orgasm is a separate process from achieving and maintaining an erection, which is crucial for sexual penetration but not the sole indicator of sexual pleasure,” said Russel Williams, M.D., the founder and medical director of The Y Factor, a men’s urological wellness and fertility company in Houston.
He added that one of the key misconceptions about sexuality is the idea that penetration is the only path to sexual satisfaction. While penetrative intercourse is a common form of sexual activity, it’s not the only way to achieve pleasure and intimacy.
How to enhance sexual pleasure if you have ED
Erectile dysfunction does not mean you can’t experience orgasm or enrich sexual encounters.
”By recognizing that orgasm is a separate physiological response from achieving an erection, men and their partners can explore alternative forms of pleasure and intimacy that go beyond traditional penetrative intercourse,” Williams said.
Houman listed five factors that can enhance sexual pleasure while dealing with ED:
- Communication. Openly discuss your desires, preferences and challenges with your partner. Communication can foster understanding and a supportive sexual environment.
- Foreplay and stimulation. Focus on extended foreplay, oral sex, manual stimulation and other forms of sexual touch to achieve arousal and enhance pleasure.
- Emotional intimacy. Building emotional intimacy with your partner can lead to a deeper connection and a more fulfilling sexual experience. It’s a bond characterized by mutual trust, vulnerability, empathy, and a sense of being truly understood and accepted by another person.
- Experimentation. Explore different sexual activities, sex toys, positions and techniques to discover what works best for you and your partner. This can help you to achieve orgasm without relying on penetrative sex.
- Medical consultation. Consult a urologist or healthcare professional to explore treatment options for ED, such as medications, vacuum erection devices, penile injections, therapy or lifestyle modifications. You don’t have to live with erectile dysfunction if it’s impacting your life. There are a lot of treatment options available.
Bottom line
Orgasm, penetration and pleasure are distinct aspects of the sexual experience. This knowledge is vital to promoting open communication, reducing performance pressure, encouraging exploration and acknowledging the diverse ways individuals find satisfaction. Such an understanding enhances intimacy, empowers people to prioritize well-being and fosters a more holistic perspective on sexuality. But don’t avoid professional guidance if you think it’s needed.
”Remember, sexual pleasure is a multi-faceted journey that can still be rich and rewarding even in the presence of ED,” Williams said.
So, yes, it’s true a man with erectile dysfunction can still achieve pleasure and orgasm. Even so, it’s essential you address the underlying causes of the condition and that means talking to your doctor.
Finding the cause of ED is not only about addressing sexual dysfunction but also about promoting overall health and the potential for a better quality of life. It’s a step toward understanding and addressing the factors that may be affecting both physical and psychological aspects of health.
